The last time I saw my daughter was when this picture was taken, July 25, 2020 (9 years old at the time), despite having joint legal custody. In December 2020, the German Youth Welfare Office refused to enforce my custody agreement. This was going to be my first Christmas with my daughter since she was two years old. Less than a year later all contact was cut off completely.

Contact wasn’t cut off because of anything I did. I had a great relationship with my daughter. After moving between German states three times, the mother finally found a corrupt Youth Welfare Officer willing to block visitation. This is very common in Germany.

When I went to pickup Grace in December 2020 per the custody agreement, the mother refused to answer the door. I went to the police, who called the Youth Welfare Officer, Hauke Muller. Hauke almost immediately went on a long tangent about how much he hates America, American culture, and especially the American President (Trump). I didn’t think much of it at the time. What do I care what he thinks. He then told me the custody agreement was no longer valid because of COVID. He said there is no “COVID clause” in the custody agreement and it was therefore invalid. I called my lawyer, who informed Hauke the courts have been clear COVID does not void the agreement. He said fine, and said he’d go talk to my ex-wife and daughter. When he came back he said, “I asked your daughter and she said she doesn’t want to go with you.” I said the custody agreement isn’t a holiday option and a 9 year old is unqualified to make adult decisions. He said “too bad.” My lawyer said there is nothing I can do. Hauke has complete autonomy and authority over the matter and the courts can’t force Hauke to enforce the custody agreement! In other words, custody agreements in Germany are worthless, and the family court system is a charade meant to appease foreign governments into believing Germany follows international human rights law, when they very intentionally do not.

Over the year before all access to my daughter was cut off, my video conversations with Grace were closely monitored and tightly limited by her Mother. For years Grace and I played Roblox together, but her mother put a stop to that. Every time a holiday came up my daughter would sadly tell me she doesn’t want to visit with me. Sometimes I would hear her mother whispering to her off camera, instructing her what to say. Grace often said she would never want to have to choose between her parents. Hauke Muller enabled the abusive mother and forced Grace into the middle of an adult situation.

Hauke Muller knew the long history of the mother emotionally abusing the child and alienating the father. During the 4-year court case the mother prevented me from having any contact with the child for 32 months. I flew to Germany multiple times to see Grace, only to be informed the mother wasn’t cooperating. The mother cycled through 8 lawyers during the court case. Once contact between the child and me was re-established, I had long weekend supervised visits. I would fly 10 hours from the US for these visits. On three occasions, I flew to Germany for court-arranged supervised visitation only to learn the mother wasn’t cooperating and I would not get to see my child. On one supervised visit the mother sewed a listening and tracking device into the hood of my daughter’s sweatshirt. She also hired security guards to stand outside the facility, which was a secure Youth Welfare Office.

I requested the courts to arbitrate this situation, asking for supervised video contact with my daughter at the Youth Welfare Office and for my daugher to see a therapist once a week. I don’t speak or understand German. The court provides a translator. My lawyer informed me after court that every time Hauke Muller spoke to me directly or spoke about me, he use language that showed clear distain towards me. He used insulting langauge. At the end of court, he would only agree to me having contact with my daughter via handwritten letter sent by the post office. The judge said that seemed unreasonable given the numerous better alternatives. I pointed out I have sent multiple packages to Grace with delivery confirmation and Grace never received the packages (birthday gifts). Hauke Muller said he would hand-deliver the handwritten letters. It’s likely Hauke Muller is receiving compensation in one form or another from the mother or grandparents. The judge has no actual authority, they are merely facilitating a discussion.

Grace is 13 years old. She has lived in Germany for 11 years now. I have only had contact with her for about 5 of those years. I haven’t spoken to Grace for almost 3 years now. The German government (Hauke Muller) is conspiring with the mother to violate the human rights of both me and my daughter.

Grace often said she would never want to have to choose between her parents. Grace’s mother, Miriam (Astroh) Wray, has a severe mental health illness called Borderline Personality Disorder, which is a sociopathology. This mental illness is difficult to treat with medication and a lot of patients refuse to seek treatment. The mother has been checked into mental health hospitals in Germany on multiple occasions. She made a suicide attempt while at University. She suffers from high anxiety and paranoia.

There is a long and well-established history of the mother alienating me from my daughter. She has clearly stated her intent to alienate me from Grace on many occasions, including in writing and in court.

Court in Heidelberg Germany, dragged on for 4 years thanks to the mother accusing me of every possible crime imaginable. She even accused me of breaking into a house she rented in the French countryside and sodomizing her dog (a labrador!). She didn’t just accuse me, she got a note from her family veterinarian of 20 years saying the dog was sodomized. Unfortunately, she couldn’t say exactly when the sodomy occurred, so I couldn’t immediately refute the accusation using my passport. She later admitted to making up this and other very serious criminal accusations against me.

You can read the two reports commissioned by the Heidelberg courts. The Youth Welfare Office has completely ignored these reports, to the detriment of me and my daughter:

The report by Dr. Christiane Hornstein is a psychiatric evaluation concerning the parental fitness of Miriam Annabelle Wray. It assesses Mrs. Wray's mental health, family background, and the impact of her behavior on her child's well-being, raising concerns about her emotional stability and suggesting further psychiatric evaluation for both mother and child. Hauke Muller has refused to support sending Grace to see a therapist. There is no way to challenge or arbitrate his extremely biased decision. (link coming soon)

Ms. Roux was appointed by the court to evaluate the child’s relationship with each of her parents. Ms. Roux indicates that while the mother and maternal grandparents have been the primary caregivers and have a positive relationship with Grace, their apparent rejection of the father complicates Grace's ability to form a stable attachment with him. This dynamic adds to the child's overall insecurity and instability. Despite the frequent care provided by the grandparents, the mother's inconsistency in presence has also affected Grace's sense of security. (link coming soon)

My case is VERY COMMON in Germany. There is a very long history of Germany discriminating against all of their so-called allies. Germany has been taken to the International Criminal Court in Europe many times, but they still refuse to change their system to reduce distrimination and human rights violations against non-Germans.

Visit GermanyHatesYou.com to learn more.

Grace is the only member of her German family that cannot visit the United States. She is the only American citizen. Grace’s mother refuses to renew her US Passport. Americans can only enter the United States with a U.S. Passport. Everyone else in Grace’s German family can visit the U.S. anytime using their German passports.